When I try to change my beliefs and habits, fear takes over and I give up

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When you embark on a mental practice to replace the old negative beliefs and behavioral patterns with new positive ones, anxiety, doubts and fear rush in as tsunami, forcing you to abandon the practice. Does it ring any bell?

Know this from personal experience, just like many other improvement seekers. Just yesterday, I have nearly put aside visualization of some useful daily habits needed to improve my productivity as a professional writer.

From the first glance, that resistance of a psyche is a weird joke of nature; irrational obstacle for changes meant to benefit us. But it's a fact. So all we can do is explore it, allow and find a way to overcome.

In this relation, I love this place in Bible, John 11:25: "Even if he dies, will live". Bible is a cute book. When taking it from the theological perspective, things just don't come together. However, when perceiving it as a metaphorical psychological guide, lose ends meet.

In relation to the subject, resurrection is a good metaphor for self-improvement. Human mind associates itself with beliefs and habits so trying to get rid of some of them is like trying to kill yourself. Naturally, the subconscious gives you a hard time.

So how to alleviate the "dying" phase? Self-affirming with this Bible quotation helps on its own to collect enough courage to face death of my old self. If it's not enough, exploring the bothering feelings makes them familiar and easier to face. Fix on an expectations that the fearful state of mind is temporary while behind it comfort awaits us.

Even if he dies, will live

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